and how i’m a really careful Domme, whose aim is to facilitate safe/ comfortable processing for my sub.
see, i believe BDSM is a healing modality. sacral or root chakra? spanking. taking shots to the body — sacral, solar plexus, heart chakras. choking - throat chakra. all of those things. no, it’s not all warm and fuzzy with meditation vibes.
but i genuinely believe folks are doing energy work when they engage. and it can drain the Dominant, same way the submissive may find themselves entranced/ meditative.
i think it’s why i’m a switch, tbh. sometimes the healer needs a healer.
addendum: i don’t play w/ ppl who are Dom only or sub only, for this reason. i believe those folks are dealing with serious vulnerability (sacral chakra) issues, and possibly need some realignment. i know this may sound impossibly witchy and/ or new age-y. good. that’s my goal.